[Interview] Parental Alienation in Divorce: What to Look For, What to Do
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I recently shared a newsletter that was chock full of all things Parental Alienation and I’m following it up by sharing a podcast interview I did with my friend Jackie Pilossoph, the founder of Divorced Girl Smiling.
As much as I wish it didn’t — this topic comes up in some variation for every mother I work with.
It’s so much more common than you can imagine — and while it’s not the first thing people think of when they envision the divorce process — I believe it’s the most destructive and damaging divorce outcome.
It’s also avoidable. But that doesn’t happen without guidance on defining what it is, what to look for in your children and what to do about it.
The bottom line is that you and your spouse or soon-to-be-ex get to decide how this is going to play out. You both have an obligation to show up for your kids, to keep them out of the chaos, to not solicit them to either side or use them as pawns and messengers.
It’s not an option.
That doesn’t mean everyone will play nice, but you can’t give up. Oftentimes, this is the place where feuding spouses, even in the most contentious divorces can meet in the middle.
I believe there’s a better way to handle this all and I guide the mothers I work with through it. In the worst-case scenarios with gaslighting narcissists, they may not get the other parent on board, but that’s when you have to double down and help your kids.
I’ve never met a mother who’s come to this program who wasn’t deeply concerned about getting her kids through the divorce. This is where it starts and it takes conscious effort, strategy and a plan.
But it’s also the number one thing you will never regret. I hope this conversation inspires you to consider this dynamic differently.
